As the owner of a Tesla Model S Plaid and Lucid Air Dream Edition, I largely agree with your pro/con analysis. However, there are a couple of things I would add.
Although the software in our Plaid is less glitchy than the software in the Model S P90D we had for six years, it is still not problem-free. Last evening we were leaving a friend's house, and the car would not open upon approach with the key fob. When I tried to press the key fob to open the car, the car went into Sentry mode and kept us locked out. Unfortunately, I had left my wallet in the car and could not get to my key card. Attempts to get into the car went on for several minutes until we went back inside to call Tesla service (which just gets you a voicemail with instructions to use the phone app to schedule service). We went back out to the car to try again and found the car had reset itself, and we could open the doors. Thank goodness we were at a friend's house instead of in a public parking lot in a rainstorm while all this was going on.
Tesla has now migrated some of the features that were once in Autopilot over into FSD, which is a $12,000 option. Autopilot in the current cars is nothing more than lane keep assist and adaptive cruise control. The car won't even change lanes by activating the turn signal in Autopilot.
When we bought our first Tesla in 2015, we paid $3,000 for the Autopilot option. Over the course of our ownership, one feature after another disappeared until we were left only with the lane keep assist and adaptive cruise control. We lost the lane change feature. The car would no longer navigate certain roads it originally navigated on Autopilot. Cruise control could no longer be set for more than 5 mph above the speed limit (which would get you rear-ended on some roads in Florida).
As many owners have discovered when they tried to trade or sell their Teslas with expensive ADAS options, they had not actually bought the option. They had licensed its use from Tesla, and Tesla retained the right to alter terms and remove features unilaterally.