We have also turned off car play. The latest release was supposed to improve it, but it's worse. It shows a lack of ability to Q/A software when they don't know that they are breaking more items than they are fixing.
The car is an amazing ride/drive. My wife and I both love driving it. However, it's our daily driver and we need most things to work all the time. We were both looking forward to many things like Carplay, Dream Drive functions, proximity keys (that don't need to be kept in Faraday boxes!), and so on. We're not sure we'll keep it. But that's ok, I got a great deal, and if, and it's just an if, I sell it, someone, hopefully here, will get an amazing car with few miles for a great price. We're still hoping the service can figure out the fob not recognized/pin problem and a better software update to solve some of our problems!!