The lurch you feel is deceleration, your speedometer doesn’t increase. The brake blending has a dip in it when it switches from regen to friction and then from friction to ABS. It’s telling that that yes it scared some people and yet no one has had a collision, in spite of waiting just a little too long for the car to stop itself rather than for you to stop the car. The car has in fact saved me from rear ending someone who stopped abruptly in front of me and another time when I was spaced out and wasn’t slowing fast enough. Both times the friction/ABS combo stopped with more room than I expected. Yeah it feels scary, different from ICE car, but it certainly works.