Latest test results:
Confirmation on what
@NerviG experienced along with an additional note that may explain why some are not having the same experience.
Posted speed limit is 65. As long as I'm below or at 65, when I engage ACC my cruising speed is 68 (with my 3 mph offset); continually.
If I disengage ACC and accelerate above 68 to 71 and reengage ACC, 71 becomes my new cruising speed for the 65 mph posted speed limit.
I can continually disengage/reengage ACC when the posted speed limit is 65 and 71 is my cruising speed.
I usually just tap up on the left side button and increase my cruising speed to say 71, instead of going through the disengage/reengage process; more straight forward.
And each time afterwards, if I have to disengage and then reengage ACC, that increased cruising speed (71) would resume.
I think that's why I didn't realize this other way (disengage/reengage) of setting a new cruising speed.
Here's the additional note. If I disengage ACC (brake pedal or X button) for whatever reason and turn onto a road with a different speed limit, the car recognizes the new posted speed limit (45) and shows the new max as 48 (3 mph offset). I can then repeat the same procedure stated above with ACC and the 65 posted speed limit.
However, when I return to a road with a speed limit of 65, the car does not remember the previous cruising speed of 71 as the cruising speed for the 65 posted speed limit. It defaults back to 68, due to my 3 mph offset. As long as the posted speed limit doesn't change, the car will remember the previously set new cruising speed for a previous posted speed limit.
As for the grayed out max speed; it always showing next to the speed limit, even before ACC is ever used. It shows me the maximum speed I've driven.
I can be driving 29 in a 25 speed zone and 29 is shown as the max.
Even when I was cruising at the new cruising speed of 71, if I accelerated to 75, then 75 would show as the max.
As long as I didn't disengage/reengage, 71 remained my cruising speed.
My takeaway from this is it's just easier for me to engage ACC, let my preset max for the posted speed limit kick in, and manually up my crusing speed using the left side button.
If I want to resume that speed after disengageing ACC, as long as the posted speed limit hasn't changed, I can do so.
I don't always want to resume my previous cruising speed for a posted speed limit. The traffic flow may be different.
If I want to resume, I engage ACC and tap up to increase my cruising speed.
If the tapping bothers me, I'll just increase my offset from 3 mph.